Balance

Productivity And The Hard Truth About Time Management

Productivity And The Hard Truth About Time Management

This post first appeared on Forbes.com How well does the way you spend your time match your priorities? Better time management is a perennial coaching goal, as I’ve seen in hundreds of coaching engagements over the last fifteen years. It comes in several forms,...

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What To Do If You Get Emotionally Flooded At Work

What To Do If You Get Emotionally Flooded At Work

This post first appeared on Forbes.com Whether you were aware of it at the time or not, you have probably become emotionally flooded at one time or another. Flooding is when you become so emotionally overwhelmed that your ability to process information shuts...

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Overworked? A People Pleaser’s Guide to Saying No

Overworked? A People Pleaser’s Guide to Saying No

This post first appeared on Forbes.com “I have more work than I can possibly do, my team is stretched to the breaking point, and the requests keep coming,” said an executive coaching client in a large tech company, her eyes welling with tears. She was not the only one...

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Scary Schedule? How to Regain Control Of Your Calendar

Scary Schedule? How to Regain Control Of Your Calendar

This post first appeared on Forbes.com. “My calendar is out of control! I have so many meetings that I can’t get my work done.” This sentiment has become increasingly common among managers and leaders. The need to work collaboratively and cross-functionally has led to...

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Re-Defining Having It All

Re-Defining Having It All

I feel the need to explain myself. My last two posts on the topic of Having It All -- both which might be interpreted as discouraging -- are probably not very good marketing for someone in my profession. After all, my job as a coach is to help people dream big and...

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Having It All Isn’t All It’s Cracked Up to Be

Having It All Isn’t All It’s Cracked Up to Be

What do we mean by "having it all," anyway? What ever happened to “enough”? Anne-Marie Slaughter's Atlantic Monthly article, which I already blogged about earlier this week, asserts that we are lying to young women when we tell them that they can have it all. Instead...

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How You Slice It

How You Slice It

What are your priorities? Are you living them? There's a group called NotMyPriorities.org that hands out postcards depicting a pie chart of the United States' budget. The Pentagon's slice is well over half the pie, with each of the other categories (education, health,...

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Childcare – Who Pays?

Childcare – Who Pays?

"I'd love to work, but I'd barely make enough to pay for childcare," says my friend, a mother of three. And I've heard this explanation from many stay-at-home-moms, heck, it was my reasoning for a long time as well. But assessing the cost of childcare solely to the...

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Find Abundance Through Sharing

Find Abundance Through Sharing

These days, scarcity is everywhere. As the media tell us daily, jobs are scarce, money is tight, credit is hard to get, and hope for speedy recovery is in short supply. On top of the financial pinch, many of us feel caught in a perpetual time crunch -- there never...

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The Stop Doing List

The Stop Doing List

If you're like me, you have a To Do list -- whether the high-tech version on your smart phone or the low-tech kind written on a Post-It, or perhaps just maintained in your head. But do you have a Stop Doing list? Maybe you should. I got this idea from Jim Collin's...

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The Four Bs of Balance

The Four Bs of Balance

When my pals and I were in our twenties, I don't remember worrying much about finding balance in our lives. We worked hard, played hard, stayed up late and damn the consequences. But now as a mid-career professionals, many of us with children, I find we are all...

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Happiness vs. Pleasure

Happiness vs. Pleasure

I have a confession to make: I didn't actually feel very good at the gym on Saturday. My triathlon training session  -- especially my somewhat labored running -- was not pleasant. It didn't actually hurt, but it was hard work for me. I thought of the blog I had posted...

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The Measure of a Mother

The Measure of a Mother

I'm about to do something very un-coach-like. I'm going to suggest that you lower your standards. As a coach, I always encourage my clients to dream big, to set ambitious goals and not be bounded by what seems reasonably achievable. Succeed or fail, you're usually...

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Getting to 50/50

Getting to 50/50

  How many women and men in their 30s and 40s thought they were going to have an "equal partnership" marriage and then found that it was not as easy as they thought, especially once kids entered the picture? Finding balance in your marriage can be tricky,...

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Jack Welch is Right

Jack Welch is Right

  “There's no such thing as work-life balance,” says former GE CEO Jack Welch, throwing cold water on what so many American professionals aspire to – having it all. “There are work-life choices, and you make them, and they have consequences.”...

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