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Productivity And The Hard Truth About Time Management

Productivity And The Hard Truth About Time Management

This post first appeared on Forbes.com How well does the way you spend your time match your priorities? Better time management is a perennial coaching goal, as I’ve seen in hundreds of coaching engagements over the last fifteen years. It comes in several forms,...

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What To Do If You Get Emotionally Flooded At Work

What To Do If You Get Emotionally Flooded At Work

This post first appeared on Forbes.com Whether you were aware of it at the time or not, you have probably become emotionally flooded at one time or another. Flooding is when you become so emotionally overwhelmed that your ability to process information shuts...

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How To Quit Your Job (Without Quitting Your Job)

How To Quit Your Job (Without Quitting Your Job)

This article was originally published on Forbes.com “Maybe I should just quit my job.” I heard this from not one, but two executive coaching clients last week. Both are high achievers. Both love some aspects of their jobs but find others almost unbearable. And...

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When Should You Take No For an Answer?

When Should You Take No For an Answer?

This post first appeared on Forbes.com The consequences of overwork are evident in my coaching practice. In startups, established companies and nonprofits I see teams in a constant state of fire-fighting and leaders who are unable to prioritize, where the quality of...

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Overworked? A People Pleaser’s Guide to Saying No

Overworked? A People Pleaser’s Guide to Saying No

This post first appeared on Forbes.com “I have more work than I can possibly do, my team is stretched to the breaking point, and the requests keep coming,” said an executive coaching client in a large tech company, her eyes welling with tears. She was not the only one...

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You can’t tell by looking at me …….

You can’t tell by looking at me …….

We all wear masks. They consist of the parts of ourselves that we gladly show to others - qualities, attributes, feelings, and experiences that we choose to reveal in a given setting. We also have parts of ourselves that we don’t talk about or show. Maybe because...

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Going Pro

Going Pro

If you read my last blog, you know that I am battling resistance. Today it has taken on many forms, from errands to housework to the season finale of "Smash." And now it has gelled into writer's block. I have several ideas,  each of which has some merit, but none of...

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The Stop Doing List

The Stop Doing List

If you're like me, you have a To Do list -- whether the high-tech version on your smart phone or the low-tech kind written on a Post-It, or perhaps just maintained in your head. But do you have a Stop Doing list? Maybe you should. I got this idea from Jim Collin's...

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The Four Bs of Balance

The Four Bs of Balance

When my pals and I were in our twenties, I don't remember worrying much about finding balance in our lives. We worked hard, played hard, stayed up late and damn the consequences. But now as a mid-career professionals, many of us with children, I find we are all...

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Bedtime Chicken

Bedtime Chicken

Lately, my husband and I have been playing a game of chicken. It goes like this: Both of us say that we want to go to bed earlier, but then as evening progresses, we each keep on working and wait for the other to blink first. Finally when it is well past our target...

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Take a Day Off From Tech

Take a Day Off From Tech

I hereby declare my first No-Tech Sunday a success! After hemming and hawing, resisting and justifying … I did it. Saturday night I sent my last email and made a Facebook post (about going offline, of course!), and turned off the laptop. So that I wouldn't forget, I...

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What’s Behind the Compulsion to Check Email

What’s Behind the Compulsion to Check Email

Do you feel annoyed and burdened by email and yet feel a perverse desire to check it throughout the day, even when you don't really need to? As if maybe something really interesting or important is waiting in the Inbox? (This hope is usually disappointed, of course.)...

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Mommy Needs a Time Out

Mommy Needs a Time Out

I am test-driving Jane Nelsen's  "Positive Discipline." As I read the book, I am trying the techniques, and I will share my experience with you. Here's the scene: I have just busted my daughter for some infraction, and she is defensive and angry. I begin to explain...

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And so to bed …..*

And so to bed …..*

  I just drew a limit, and it felt great. I just got a phone call from a wonderful parent at the preschool where I am president of the board. She is leading a long-term strategic planning initiative, and she called with some questions. But it was just after 9:00,...

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Jack Welch is Right

Jack Welch is Right

  “There's no such thing as work-life balance,” says former GE CEO Jack Welch, throwing cold water on what so many American professionals aspire to – having it all. “There are work-life choices, and you make them, and they have consequences.”...

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Saying “No” ….. and “Yes”

Saying “No” ….. and “Yes”

  Why is it so easy for my two-year-old to say “No,” and so hard for me and for many women and men I know? It all came to a head this week when I tried to shoe-horn in a fourth nighttime commitment into a busy week, and my husband gently suggested I might have to...

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