Change

How To Take Charge And Navigate An Unexpected Change

How To Take Charge And Navigate An Unexpected Change

This post first appeared on Forbes.com Sometimes you need a push. You may not know you need it—you may even resent it—but a push helps (sometimes forces) you to change and can ultimately take you in a good direction. We coaches love to talk about...

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Approach your career like an artist

Approach your career like an artist

When you are feeling stuck, uncertain, and afraid of taking action, you would do well to remember Diebenkorn’s  “Notes to Myself on Beginning a Painting.” Number 7 is: “Mistakes can’t be erased, but they move you from your present position.” He was, of course,...

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Life on the Other Side of the Finish Line

Life on the Other Side of the Finish Line

Last weekend I completed the Bike MS Waves to Wine ride -- the longest cycling event of my life -- and I raised nearly $4000 for the MS Society. I feel strong and happy and proud. (I hesitate to admit that I feel proud, because my good New England upbringing taught me...

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The Secret of Goal Setting: Values Alignment

The Secret of Goal Setting: Values Alignment

One of the first things we do in a coaching relationship -- whether it is career coaching, leadership development, team coaching, or personal life coaching -- is set goals. Like most coaches, I encourage my clients to (1) be very specific about their goals, (2) make...

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Ask the Right Questions

Ask the Right Questions

Sometimes, asking “why?” can be a trap. A typical individual coaching client comes to me wanting to do something (it could be anything – find a job, write a book, earn a promotion, get in shape) and looking for my help. Very likely by the time he comes to me, he has...

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Reality Check Your Resolution

Reality Check Your Resolution

Whether or not you are a resolution-maker, the New Year invites you to take stock of the distance traveled over the last twelve months and set goals for the coming year. This year, many of us look back on 2010 and see a lot of hardships – whether loss of job,...

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Tapping Into Your Inner Board of Directors

Tapping Into Your Inner Board of Directors

Have you ever been stuck at a decision point, paralyzed by inner conflict, pulled in multiple directions by different needs, desires, and fears? Instead of trying to choose among these warring factions of yourself, perhaps it is time to get them to work together. Cast...

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Breaking Up (With Your Job) is Hard To Do

Breaking Up (With Your Job) is Hard To Do

I have a client who is completely fed up with her job. She is spread too thin, underpaid, under-resourced, isolated, and dissatisfied. She has tried hard to make the job work better, but it has now become clear that the fundamental problems with this job are not going...

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From Lawyer to Coach (NFL Coach, That Is)

From Lawyer to Coach (NFL Coach, That Is)

  The story of lawyer-turned-football-coach Daron Roberts offers some great lessons on career change. Roberts turned his back on a Harvard Law School education to start from scratch and become an NFL coach. While your transition may be less dramatic, you can...

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This is Only a Test

This is Only a Test

  Today I spoke with Gretchen Rubin, best-selling author of The Happiness Project, about her book, happiness, and coaching. Our conversation touched on the importance of taking action. Gretchen's project was all about test-driving a wide range happiness theories...

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Get Experimental

Get Experimental

  Here's the deal: you don't change your life by thinking really hard about it, or by dreaming, or talking about it. You change it by taking action. I just watched a talk on youtube given by my fellow coach and former co-worker, Michael Melcher. It's a great...

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Where is Your Outrage?

Where is Your Outrage?

  I know I'm late to the party, but I just finished reading Freakonomics by Steven Levitt and Stephen J. Dubner, a provocative and fun to read economic analysis of many social phenomena that turned many of my assumptions on their heads. I like that. But it also...

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Make Your New Year’s Resolution SMART

Make Your New Year’s Resolution SMART

  Several years ago I swore off New Year's Resolutions. (Yes, I see the irony of that.) The annual hopeful energy and inevitable late-winter decline was a cliché, and I was too cool for all that. So I steadfastly ignored Auld Lang Syne and set personal goals...

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What Do You Want from 2010?

What Do You Want from 2010?

  Time Magazine's cover last week dubbed the 2000's “The Decade From Hell,” and many are saying “good riddance.” But what lessons have you learned, and how do you want to enter the coming year, the coming decade? With a New Year's resolution that will be stale by...

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Now, More Than Ever

Now, More Than Ever

  Times are tough – we see it all around us. The economy is faltering, people are losing their jobs and their homes in numbers that make even those who have a relatively secure job feel nervous. So maybe your first response to coaching is, “That sounds nice, but...

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Quantum Leap or Baby Step?

Quantum Leap or Baby Step?

  A Facebook buddy has the following quotation on his home page: “Doing is a quantum leap from imagining.” I am struck both by its truth and by the way in which it is not true. The truth of it is commonplace: talk is cheap, actions speak louder than words,...

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