Conflict

What To Do If You Get Emotionally Flooded At Work

What To Do If You Get Emotionally Flooded At Work

This post first appeared on Forbes.com Whether you were aware of it at the time or not, you have probably become emotionally flooded at one time or another. Flooding is when you become so emotionally overwhelmed that your ability to process information shuts...

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How To Build Conflict Skills—The Pinch/Crunch Model

How To Build Conflict Skills—The Pinch/Crunch Model

This post first appeared on Forbes.com We’ve all heard the clichés: Pick your battles. Don’t make a mountain out of a molehill. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Good advice, to a point, but for the conflict-averse, it is possible to be too selective about raising issues....

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The Hard Truth About Boundaries And Self Care

The Hard Truth About Boundaries And Self Care

This post first appeared on Forbes.com “There is always more to do. I constantly feel like I am letting people down.” This statement could have been made by almost any of my clients: Dirk, the VP of engineering at a tech company; or Sheena, a surgeon in a major clinic...

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What To Do When You Receive Contradictory Feedback

What To Do When You Receive Contradictory Feedback

This post first appeared on Forbes.com “Feedback is a gift.” We’ve all heard it, and it’s often true. At its best, feedback from our bosses and colleagues helps us understand our strengths, weaknesses and impact on others. It sheds light on our blindspots and provides...

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How To Create An Awesome Offsite Experience

How To Create An Awesome Offsite Experience

This post first appeared on Forbes.com As the summer draws to a close, many teams will be thinking about coming together for an offsite. The stakes for these gatherings are high. Employee engagement, collaboration and connection have faltered in the last three...

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Stop Telling Women To ‘Suck It Up’

Stop Telling Women To ‘Suck It Up’

This post first appeared on Forbes.com The “Barbie” movie’s over-the-top but incisive take on the impact of gender stereotyping on women’s lives hinted at, but did not delve deeply into the darker aspects and consequences of gender bias for women. But two...

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How To Prepare For Rejection

How To Prepare For Rejection

This post first appeared on Forbes.com Sergei is a 40-year old startup CEO looking to raise his next round of funding. Beth is a 30-year-old technical writer considering changing jobs. Maggie is a college sophomore rushing a sorority. What do they have in common? All...

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So You Messed Up? How To Repair With A Coworker

So You Messed Up? How To Repair With A Coworker

This post first appeared on Forbes.com You thought the meeting was fine. And then you hear from your manager that someone complained about your communication style. Now what? In situations that don’t rise to the level of an HR complaint but that leave a colleague with...

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5 Leadership Lessons From Ultimate Frisbee

5 Leadership Lessons From Ultimate Frisbee

This post first appeared on Forbes.com Author’s note: This post is personal, inspired by the Women’s Collegiate Division 3 Ultimate National Championships in Columbus, Ohio May 20-22, 2023. There was no chance they would win the championship. Seeded...

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How To Bounce Back After Being Passed Over For Promotion

How To Bounce Back After Being Passed Over For Promotion

This post first appeared on Forbes.com “I’m totally unmotivated to go to work. What do I do? ” Janelle (*name and identifying details changed) recently had a big, public disappointment at work—she was passed over for the top job in her organization. She was highly...

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How To Improve A Challenging Work Relationship

How To Improve A Challenging Work Relationship

This post first appeared on Forbes.com Relationships at work matter. Having friends on the job makes you happier, period. My first Big Law job (a grind) was made not just bearable, but actually fun by my two workplace pals, Dale and Tim. We supported each other...

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How To Network Effectively—Even When It Feels Weird

How To Network Effectively—Even When It Feels Weird

This post first appeared on Forbes.com “Relationships are a form of wealth that is under your control. You can create this wealth even if you start with nothing. And once you create it, no one can take it away,” asserts author and executive coach Michael Melcher in...

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How To Stay Motivated And Be Happier At Work

How To Stay Motivated And Be Happier At Work

This post first appeared on Forbes.com “That’s why they call it work,” as dads and managers have quipped for years in response to the complaints of young workers. Meaning: don’t expect it to be fun or easy (and quit your whining!) But when work feels like a slog...

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Why We Are (Still) Talking About Quiet Quitting

Why We Are (Still) Talking About Quiet Quitting

This post first appeared on Forbes.com First it was the “great resignation.” Now it is “quiet quitting.” From TikTok to NPR, the notion of workers setting boundaries—doing the work that they are paid for and expecting to be paid for the work they do—has...

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Quiet Quitting—It’s All In The Attitude

Quiet Quitting—It’s All In The Attitude

This post first appeared on Forbes.com The recent TikTok trend, widely covered in the media, “quiet quitting” is really not that new at all (cue Office Space the movie). Work has always been greedy for our time and effort, employers have sought to pay as...

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Imposter Syndrome Upside? Not Exactly…

Imposter Syndrome Upside? Not Exactly…

This post first appeared on Forbes.com Could “Imposter Syndrome” have an upside? Research reported in the Harvard Business Review and other media outlets indicates that imposter thoughts—thinking ”that you are not as competent as others...

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The 69%

The 69%

  It turns out that 69% of marital conflicts are perpetual. Yup. Sixty. Nine. Percent. This is true for even the most successful, happy marriages. The first time I heard this statistic, I found it utterly discouraging to think that the vast majority of areas of...

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