Goal Setting

Life on the Other Side of the Finish Line

Life on the Other Side of the Finish Line

Last weekend I completed the Bike MS Waves to Wine ride -- the longest cycling event of my life -- and I raised nearly $4000 for the MS Society. I feel strong and happy and proud. (I hesitate to admit that I feel proud, because my good New England upbringing taught me...

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The Secret of Goal Setting: Values Alignment

The Secret of Goal Setting: Values Alignment

One of the first things we do in a coaching relationship -- whether it is career coaching, leadership development, team coaching, or personal life coaching -- is set goals. Like most coaches, I encourage my clients to (1) be very specific about their goals, (2) make...

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What Do You Want?

What Do You Want?

One of the first questions I ask new and prospective clients is "what do you want?" More often than not, the answer is: "I don't know," or "I'm not sure." The first phase of coaching then focuses on clarifying what the client wants so that he or she can begin to move...

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No More Mister Nice Guy?

No More Mister Nice Guy?

Nice guys earn significantly lower salaries than less agreeable men (though still more than women, regardless of their agreeableness) reports a new study by Timothy A. Judge, Beth A. Livingston, and Charlice Hurst in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology....

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Reality Check Your Resolution

Reality Check Your Resolution

Whether or not you are a resolution-maker, the New Year invites you to take stock of the distance traveled over the last twelve months and set goals for the coming year. This year, many of us look back on 2010 and see a lot of hardships – whether loss of job,...

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I’m a Triathlete (who’da thunk it? not me!)

I’m a Triathlete (who’da thunk it? not me!)

Well, I did it! On Sunday I completed the Olympic distance Marin Triathlon. It was the culmination of weeks of training, and I felt great. I am still basking in the glow of accomplishment and I am already thinking about doing another triathlon and bettering my times....

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Happiness Beyond the Comfort Zone

Happiness Beyond the Comfort Zone

In fifty-one days my husband Reece and I will be running, biking, and swimming the Marin Triathlon. There! I have set a specific, measurable, and actionable goal. Now that it is public, I am committed. So here's a cool thing I have noticed: three weeks into my...

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Drudgery Transformed

Drudgery Transformed

How can you stay motivated when you are overwhelmed by a To Do list as long as your arm? Or when everything feels like drudgery and you just can't make yourself get started? One way I help my clients get into action is to connect them to the purpose underlying what...

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Four Steps to Avoiding Terminal Vagueness

Four Steps to Avoiding Terminal Vagueness

  According to debtor's anonymous, many people who repeatedly incur unsecured debt experience so-called “terminal vagueness” – a lack of awareness or monitoring of their finances. But you don't have to be ready for a Twelve-Step program to be prone to this...

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Make Your New Year’s Resolution SMART

Make Your New Year’s Resolution SMART

  Several years ago I swore off New Year's Resolutions. (Yes, I see the irony of that.) The annual hopeful energy and inevitable late-winter decline was a cliché, and I was too cool for all that. So I steadfastly ignored Auld Lang Syne and set personal goals...

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What Do You Want from 2010?

What Do You Want from 2010?

  Time Magazine's cover last week dubbed the 2000's “The Decade From Hell,” and many are saying “good riddance.” But what lessons have you learned, and how do you want to enter the coming year, the coming decade? With a New Year's resolution that will be stale by...

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Taking Your Game to a Bigger Arena

Taking Your Game to a Bigger Arena

  I am just back from a trip to New York to pitch my old law firm, Davis Polk & Wardwell, on the value of coaching and try to persuade them to include coaching in their associate development and retention program. I'll cut to the chase: I was unsuccessful. My...

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The Not-Knowing

The Not-Knowing

  Do you sometimes feel like all aptitude and no direction? That was me for a long time. I had confidence in my capacity to do something, but could never figure out what that something was. I was surrounded by people who were driven to pursue one path or another...

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