Mindfulness

Choosing Delight

Choosing Delight

Ross Gay’s Book of Delights is an invitation. Starting and ending on his birthday, the poet wrote an essay a day about the things, people and events that struck his delight - a smile from the person selling him a bus ticket, a song on the radio, his garden, a turn of...

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Get Your Gratitude On – For Its Own Sake

Get Your Gratitude On – For Its Own Sake

All over the country this week bloggers are holding forth on the subject of gratitude. And I’m all for gratitude, not just in November, but daily, maybe even hourly. But too often gratitude is touted not as an end in itself but because it will help you achieve some...

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Mindfulness Lesson on Ice

Mindfulness Lesson on Ice

Today at the ice rink, the present moment collided with the past and the future. And I'm not talking about science fiction here. I received a lesson in mindfulness. For the first half hour of our family outing I skated slowly, holding hands and guiding each of my...

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The Four Bs of Balance

The Four Bs of Balance

When my pals and I were in our twenties, I don't remember worrying much about finding balance in our lives. We worked hard, played hard, stayed up late and damn the consequences. But now as a mid-career professionals, many of us with children, I find we are all...

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Cultivating Gratitude

Cultivating Gratitude

"Truly grateful people don't make lists of things to be grateful for any more than happy people make lists of things to be happy about." says Hank Deveraux in the epilogue to Richard  Russo's hilarious and poignant novel, Straight Man.  And there's a certain...

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Happiness vs. Pleasure

Happiness vs. Pleasure

I have a confession to make: I didn't actually feel very good at the gym on Saturday. My triathlon training session  -- especially my somewhat labored running -- was not pleasant. It didn't actually hurt, but it was hard work for me. I thought of the blog I had posted...

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Drudgery Transformed

Drudgery Transformed

How can you stay motivated when you are overwhelmed by a To Do list as long as your arm? Or when everything feels like drudgery and you just can't make yourself get started? One way I help my clients get into action is to connect them to the purpose underlying what...

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Special Time on Your Own Doorstep

Special Time on Your Own Doorstep

  What makes an occasion special is not so much about what you do or where you go (or how much you spend) but instead about the quality of attention you bring. I already knew this truth, but I was reminded of it this weekend. After our second or third goodnight...

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Awareness — Wake Up and Smell the Goldfish!

Awareness — Wake Up and Smell the Goldfish!

  Awareness is the beginning of change. Case in point: I never realized how much I was eating between meals until I decided to quit snacking. It turns out that I had been consuming a steady stream of totally unworthy calories: a handful of dry cereal, cashews,...

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