Parenting/Motherhood

From The Obvious Files: Get More Sleep (+ Some Tips)

From The Obvious Files: Get More Sleep (+ Some Tips)

This morning, I watched my beloved and bleary-eyed husband pour orange juice into his empty bowl. When the kids and I started howling with laughter, he realized what he was doing, grinned, and spooned his oatmeal into his glass and sat down to eat, slurping juice from...

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Summer Camp is a Big Step for Parents, Too

Summer Camp is a Big Step for Parents, Too

On Sunday we delivered our nine-year-old daughter to the bus that will take her to sleep-away camp for the first time.  It was far from a tearful goodbye – she was first in line to get on and gave me a warm but brief hug before boarding. I smiled bravely and waved at...

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Having It All Isn’t All It’s Cracked Up to Be

Having It All Isn’t All It’s Cracked Up to Be

What do we mean by "having it all," anyway? What ever happened to “enough”? Anne-Marie Slaughter's Atlantic Monthly article, which I already blogged about earlier this week, asserts that we are lying to young women when we tell them that they can have it all. Instead...

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Men Don’t Have It All, Either

Men Don’t Have It All, Either

Anne-Marie Slaughter’s heavily Tweeted cover story in the current issue of the Atlantic Monthly, “Why Women Still Can’t Have It All” publicly and very personally acknowledges what most women in the corporate trenches already know: it is incredibly difficult to climb...

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Launched!

Launched!

This morning, I launched my son -- my  baby -- into the world. Today he begins an academic career that I hope will foster and channel his natural curiosity, helping him chart a path of discovery that takes him ..... where? The possibilities are endless. He also will...

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Childcare – Who Pays?

Childcare – Who Pays?

"I'd love to work, but I'd barely make enough to pay for childcare," says my friend, a mother of three. And I've heard this explanation from many stay-at-home-moms, heck, it was my reasoning for a long time as well. But assessing the cost of childcare solely to the...

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Confessions of a Mid-Life Mama

Confessions of a Mid-Life Mama

Mid-Life Crisis -- the phrase conjures up the image of a forty-something man who suddenly feels his life slipping away from him,  wonders if this is all there is, and reacts by getting himself a flashy new sportscar, or a maybe a hot young girlfriend.  There's no...

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Thanks, Moms!

Thanks, Moms!

Here's a shout out to all the stay-at-home moms (and dads) out there – thank you for all you do, not just for your own kids but for my kids too. I am writing this from my hotel room in Pt. Reyes, California where I am staying for a client off-site retreat that Leigh...

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Five Tips for When the Parenting Honeymoon is Over

Five Tips for When the Parenting Honeymoon is Over

What do we do when the first bloom of parenthood wears off and reality sets in? In marriage, it is called the "seven year itch," when many a husband or wife tires of the reality of life with their spouse. But this experience is not limited to marital partners, says ...

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Stigma-Busting (or How I Dealt With Lice)

Stigma-Busting (or How I Dealt With Lice)

As my children and I boarded the plane at SFO bound for Lake Michigan, the pilot invited the kids into the cockpit for a look. One by one they sat in the pilot's seat while I took photos with my phone-cam. It was cramped but jolly, and then Matty informed the pilot,...

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Mommy Needs a Time Out

Mommy Needs a Time Out

I am test-driving Jane Nelsen's  "Positive Discipline." As I read the book, I am trying the techniques, and I will share my experience with you. Here's the scene: I have just busted my daughter for some infraction, and she is defensive and angry. I begin to explain...

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Conscious Eating Tips for Moms

Conscious Eating Tips for Moms

Moms --  do you find your weight creeping up? Maybe you never lost the baby weight, or maybe it was a couple of pounds last year and another couple this year. But if you do the math ..... well, before you know it you'll be deep in mom-jeans territory. Now's the time...

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The Measure of a Mother

The Measure of a Mother

I'm about to do something very un-coach-like. I'm going to suggest that you lower your standards. As a coach, I always encourage my clients to dream big, to set ambitious goals and not be bounded by what seems reasonably achievable. Succeed or fail, you're usually...

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My Headset Was in the Fruit Bowl

My Headset Was in the Fruit Bowl

  My timing was flawless. I returned from dropping my son off at school just before my first client of the day. But when the phone rang promptly at 9:30 I couldn't find my wireless headset (perhaps the most important piece of technology for a coach). It was ......

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Motherhood Runs the Gamut of Emotions

Motherhood Runs the Gamut of Emotions

  I didn't know whether to laugh, cry, or cheer when I read a post on ParentHacks suggesting that moms turn their children's bathtime into "pamper" time by sticking their own feet in a lavender scented kids' bathtub while reading a glossy magazine, and then...

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Getting to 50/50

Getting to 50/50

  How many women and men in their 30s and 40s thought they were going to have an "equal partnership" marriage and then found that it was not as easy as they thought, especially once kids entered the picture? Finding balance in your marriage can be tricky,...

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Mother-in Law Advice:  Just Say Yes

Mother-in Law Advice: Just Say Yes

  I have written a number of times about the power of saying "No." Today, I want to say something about saying "Yes." If you are are a parent like me, you say "no" to a lot. No to chocolate at bedtime. No to hitting your sister. No to wearing flip-flops for...

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Special Time on Your Own Doorstep

Special Time on Your Own Doorstep

  What makes an occasion special is not so much about what you do or where you go (or how much you spend) but instead about the quality of attention you bring. I already knew this truth, but I was reminded of it this weekend. After our second or third goodnight...

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Awareness — Wake Up and Smell the Goldfish!

Awareness — Wake Up and Smell the Goldfish!

  Awareness is the beginning of change. Case in point: I never realized how much I was eating between meals until I decided to quit snacking. It turns out that I had been consuming a steady stream of totally unworthy calories: a handful of dry cereal, cashews,...

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Taking a Stand for a Mother’s Right to Choose

Taking a Stand for a Mother’s Right to Choose

  Are stay-at-home-moms damaging their long-term career prospects, putting themselves and their families at financial risk, and wasting their potential? Diana Kapp, author of a recent article in San Francisco Magazine, thinks so....

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